In our previous segment we became familiar with the various types of “whiny backtalk.” Familiarity reduces the element of surprise in backtalk and helps us remain calm.
But staying calm in the face of whiny backtalk is a piece of cake compared to staying calm in the face of nasty backtalk. If we can think of discipline management as a poker game in which the student raises the dealer...
In our previous segment we learned the Cardinal Error of dealing with backtalk. The Cardinal Error of dealing with backtalk is backtalk – your backtalk. Becoming involved with backtalk only makes the problem worse – which produces our first rule of backtalk:
It takes one fool to backtalk.
It takes two fools to make a conversation out of it.
I found this article today at Yahoo! Parenting by Erin Zammett Ruddy. Her 7-year-old shoplifted and she made him return to the store and pay for it. Many of you may have had a similar experience growing up and I'm sure it made a lasting impression. What stood out to me was the section where Ruddy consulted a child psychologist and what she said about setting limits and staying calm. It reads: